5 Things Oprah Teaches Us About Aging Gracefully

Cameron Diaz on Oprah's "Aging Gracefully"

Cameron Diaz on Oprah’s “Aging Gracefully”

Hollywood power ladies Cameron Diaz and Sharon Stone stopped by Oprah’s Los Angeles Studios to talk about something that is less common than plastic surgery in Hollywood –  aging gracefully.  Cameron Diaz, 41, and Sharon Stone, 56, are perfect examples of women who are realistic about embracing their age and most importantly are committed to inspiring others to do the same.  Here are the top five messages  we took away from the incredibly honest and moving episode of Oprah Prime that are guaranteed to motivate women to age with grace. As Sharon Stone put it, “Ageless beauty doesn’t exist. It’s absurd. It’s not possible.” And as we always say, embrace who you are right now. -Jesse & Joe

1. Health Is More Important Than Beauty

Cameron Diaz, author of the New York Times best-seller The Body Book: The Law of Hunger, the Science of Strength, and Other Ways to Love Your Amazing Body, voiced a very important point: being healthy inside and outside is more important than looking young. Listen to your body and understand its science instead of reactively looking for the next quick fix or diet.  There is no way to be healthy if you don’t have a clear understanding of how your body works and reacts to what you put into it.

Cameron Diaz with her book, "The Body Book"

Cameron Diaz with her book, “The Body Book”

2. Don’t Let Others Dictate How You Should Look

Diaz says, “Women don’t allow other women to age gracefully, and we don’t give ourselves permission to age gracefully. And they’re trying. For me I feel like if I—it’s almost as if we have failed if we don’t remain 25 for the rest of our lives. Like we are failures. It’s a personal…failure. Like our fault that at 40 years old that I still don’t look like I’m 25. Oh, I’m sorry. I apologize. I wasn’t able to defy nature.”

3. Accept Yourself

Oprah observed, “Our culture is obsessed with not growing into who you were meant to be.” But ultimately, it’s up to you: either you accept yourself, or chase the impossible. “There was a point in my 40s where I went into the bathroom with a bottle of wine, locked the door and said, ‘I’m not coming out until I can totally accept the way I look right now. And I examined my face in the magnifying mirror, and I looked at my body, and I cried and cried and cried. Then I said to myself, ‘You’re going to get old now. How do you want to do that?’ And I thought, ‘I’d like to age like a dancer.’ I want to keep my body in shape like that. I want to do the work. I like to dance and stretch. And I like going to the gym,” said Sharon Stone.

4. Imperfections Are Sensual

“Frankly, I think that in the art of aging well, there’s this sexuality to having those imperfections. It’s sensual,” stated Sharon Stone and was point on.

Sharon Stone on Oprah's "Aging Gracefully"

Sharon Stone on Oprah’s “Aging Gracefully”

5. Be The Best Version Of  YOU

“I think to be the best you can be, we have to recognize that it’s an internal thing, not just an external thing. We have to have internal health and internal wellness. I think that’s physical health, mental health, spiritual health. You know, I think it’s a sense of ethics. It’s everything. If you want to keep yourself together it’s all things.”  – Sharon Stone

For the episode’s powerful finale, Oprah showed Lupita Nyongo’s moving acceptance speech at Essence: “Black Women in Hollywood” awards, in which she emphasizes that “You can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What’s beautiful is compassion.”