Feelin’ It: A Beautiful Thing

Feelin' It

I am compelled to share with you a story about cancer and it’s not what you might expect. This story is about all of us, and a reminder that each day we have the chance to turn our challenges into something beautiful.

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One of my dearest childhood friends has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I recently visited my hometown of Indianapolis, and paid her a little visit. In high school, I suppose you would say that she was one of those “quiet beauties” – slightly introverted but got along with everyone from the nerds to the beauty queens. Even though she was the kind of person who has both left and right brain on point, she was known for being an A-student who would be there to help everyone get ready for the chemistry test.

The person who I met this time around was different: she was vibrant and alive, creative and expressive. Mary Alice is the most confident and glowing that I’ve ever seen her. Once diagnosed, a force larger than life pulled her towards where she belongs – art. And it became her healing.

Jesse and Mary Alice

Jesse and Mary Alice

Going through this challenging medical process, she’s decided to focus on creating something beautiful and giving back. She started a program for chemotherapy patients, gifting them boxes of all their favorite things to support them through the tough times.My hope is that I can give voice to what others might be experiencing and feeling, give others courage, and inspire them toward inner healing,” she says.  I can honestly say that Mary Alice is a perfect example of what real beauty is all about. Without further ado, please meet this amazing, incredibly inspiring lady, and make sure you pass these words of encouragement along to anyone you know who is also going through this. -Jesse

Written by Mary Alice Peoples:

ARTISTIC HEALING

People have often asked me, “Are you an artist? What type of art do you do?” Having not considered myself an artist in the past, I was always surprised to hear this observation. After listening to what others saw in me and being encouraged by friends, I began writing poetry and doodling with no outcome in mind. I simply let it come to me. I discovered what was visually and emotionally inspiring. Before long, I was almost obsessed with writing poetry! I discovered pointillism, watercolor and began experimenting with nature photography.

Through the process of art there is an experience of inner and physical healing. More and more I am loving the finished product! I make it a practice to not “ditch” my efforts, thus validating the process rather than the outcome.

Cooking was probably the first artistic expression I discovered. ‘Alive’ describes the feeling I have when I cook. I view recipes as a guideline and love working creatively from there and how satisfying it is when friends and family sit down and enjoy!

CONFIDENCE THROUGH STYLE

I flourish when I feel seen, known and loved for who I am. Communicating identity through style has become a cornerstone. As soon as someone sees me, I know they already have a sense of the “me” they will get to know.

For many years I did not feel I knew “who” I was. While growing to know and love the real me, I discovered my personal, eclectic style. Advice from my style savvy friend Jesse, taking the style type quiz and “Nothing to Wear” book helped in the discovery process! Each day, when I look in the mirror, I make sure I see every aspect of ME, at my best.

Mary Alice Peoples

Mary Alice Peoples

One style inspiration was my grandmother Marie. She always looked polished and accessorized and wore heels till her dying day! She was one classy lady!

Knowing others see the real ME gives me enthusiastic confidence, so why not use clothes that empower me to achieve that? Being my most true self in every way each day is deeply affirming. I find I have a relaxed, confident openness. There is an element of feeling emotionally “hot!” Who wouldn’t want to feel that way?!

“OPENINGS”

I am working on a very exciting program for chemotherapy patients that I call “Openings”. Those undergoing treatment will receive a big basket full of tiny boxes at their first chemotherapy session. There will be as many boxes as there are prescribed chemo sessions. The boxes will contain tiny whimsical surprises such as a piece of candy, a ring from a gum ball machine or a scrap of paper with words of encouragement. With each completed chemo session, a new box is opened. Each recipient can experience the anticipation of a little surprise and the benefit of seeing the number of boxes dwindle as progress is made toward the end of chemotherapy. My goal is to assemble an army of helpers and resources to broaden the scope – I am shooting for the moon!

Visual Therapy will be donating silk scarves to “Openings” on behalf of our clients; if you’d like to donate – please email us with “Openings” in subject line: media@visual-therapy.com

TIPS & TRICKS

As a cancer patient, I’ve found certain things that help me go through this process with grace. Here are my tricks:

1. Make the effort to love the way you look (with the help of makeup!). It never ceases to amaze me, even when I’m feeling rushed or “blah,” what a difference a great look, eye liner, mascara and a pop of lipstick can do to boost everything.

2. Make a point to not use personal pronouns when addressing cancer and don’t identify as a “cancer patient.” I identify as Mary Alice, at her best. Cancer is something I am conquering, not something that I own or that owns me. I am not the diagnosis! For example, when I’m talking to someone, I don’t say, “I have cancer.” I say, “I am being treated for breast cancer.” When I am talking about the surgery, I don’t say, “When I had my mastectomy …” I say, “When I had THE mastectomy …” or, ” … on the day of THE surgery …” If I’m telling my story, I make it a point NOT to use phrases like, “When I found out about ‘my’ cancer … ” I don’t even say, “When I found out that I have caner …” Instead, I say, “When I heard the diagnosis …” or “When I found out I had a serious health issue to address …” I feel like by doing so, I do not allow the negative energy of “cancer” to invade my mind, my space or my energy. It is not allowed to be a part of me, because it is something that can be conquered and from which I can experience healing.

3. Learn to accept love, help, concern and generosity from others. Learn to ask for what you need. Friends are thrilled to be asked to come visit or help. By asking, we give. One friend recently joked that she felt selfish helping because it made her feel so good!

4. Determine for yourself and communicate to others what and how much input and information regarding your health works for you. Some people face challenges better with as much information as possible. Others cope by taking one step at a time. Both are valid coping mechanisms, but they are individual to each person. Ask yourself what works best for you and assert what you need.
5. Make the best of social media! I have been inspired by the social media project #100happydays -I am approaching 250 of 100! Needless to say, looking for and seeing the “happy” in each day has become a habit. I plan to post “happy day” moments forever!

41/100 #100happydays - My painting.

41/100 #100happydays – My painting.

MESSAGE

Give yourself, your whole heart. I once read the advice, “Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves more.”

I have found tremendous freedom in practicing this.

Mary Alice People's art

Mary Alice People’s art

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Jesse Garza

Jesse Garza

Jesse Garza is VT's Co-Founder and Creative Director.

2 Comments

  1. So moved to see my oldest friends continue to be a positive imact in each others lives.

  2. Love this article! Cancer is scary and I admire anyone facing it down in style.